Thursday, April 17, 2008

children

one time, me, michelle and harrison are talking about hw some new generation parents have no hitting policy unlike us, the older generation whom parents still believe in hitting policy.. and the ranting goes on like kids nowadays are so spoiled and etc.. the parents won't hit them and will just tell them nicely their mistake.. michelle claim that this way will nvr work.. for me, the kids nwadays are too well protected and i m sure in any other way, they want independant.. the hitting or not is up to parent.coz there are pro and cons in everything.. this policy may i add depend on the children emotional level too.. some may be too fragile to get hitting, as it may damage their self esteem, but some may need a little spanking. i also heard from mun yee in hillsongs kids, they don't hit kids, they believe in treating kids as a adult or may i say human that understand words, anna agreed.. haha, i guess for me, if u treat the child as young adult, then even if he is not, he will try to be, coz he wan to live up to the trust u given.. and i think, as violent as a kid may be, thr is alwiz an issue behind it.. well, patient is needed to tackle it.. best is, ask God to show u about it.. one thing i alwiz believe, no child is accident, it is a add on of the love of the parents whether it is out of mistake or unplanned.. it is still a gift to the parent like it or nt, a life created out of passionate moment between two (i noe tis doesn't include pregnancy out of rape or force sex).. even in womb, a child can sense rejection..

oh and hw michelle hate it wen children ran amok and scream in public places, lol.. n i begin to wonder, wat will i do if it is my kids, i mean ppl sure find it irritating and all, well, its too early to think la lol, bt i still can't help wonder like how i will train my child (will i use the child attach thingy like wat michelle say-tie ur child to u in public so dat they dun run amok bt still, come to think, they r kids, so yea, depending..beside, it is a gud way to lost weight as u run to chase them lol..), hw i will educate them (should i send them to sunday school or homeschool? to avoid wrong teaching, noo offence bt thr is caution of the sunday school teaching), will i be strict or not,will i practice hitting or no hitting policy, will their faith be influence because of me (how should i let them discover a relationship with God but yet nt make them believe it becoz it is a family faith, how to build their foundation in God that they really noe who is HIM nt based on what i say who HE is.. sometime, i even thinking for a term, wen they r old enough, let them stay somewhr without the family, and let them choose their faith freely, no forcing that every sun u must go as a family to church n etc. u have a choice as God gave everyone a choice, then only the faith is a strong foundation wen u choose urself) and etc etc, all tis questionis in my mind .. one thing for sure, i will definately ask God to shower them love.. a Love higher than my love and bcoz it is this Love i can love, nt forgetting that if i have children, it is HIS power that granted it. wat i learn being a daughter of God is (no one can be a mother without being a daughter) , HE will give HIS children the inheritance wen they are able to handle it.. and sometime HE even trust u more than HE should, and sometime u wasted it (i noe i did out of my childish way or bcoz i m a spiritual bastard, untill i noe my position in HIM), bt HE will wait for u to grow and matured before it is trusted to u again.. and every child have diff level of spiritual maturity thus diff level of inheritance, thrfore diff way of raising them bt it doesnt mean favouritism.. also, God dun value u for ur result, ur work, ur knowledge, ur success, HE as a father, cherish us because we r from HIM, becoz we want us for who we r.. like a mother who still love the son even wen he make mistake..yes, God the father is hurt everytime we make mistake and fall, but HE wan to restore us wen we repent..HIS love is able to forgive our iniquity.. That will be a lesson i wan to pass down..

well, the journey is getting more interesting.. i will walk on to c more... and sry for blabering.. too bad, writing is a way i communicate myself and present my thoughts.. i only long winded in writing.. i wont b able to speak so much ...lol.. my frens should b thxful..

just my life

overwhelmed is the word i will use nw.. just fill with work and some other 'distraction' haha.. well, so yeah, i am in my blur and silence mood maybe slightly impatient, forgive me for it. bt I maybe very hyper on certain time and ppl.. ahaha... guess nt just me that is stress by work, michelle goh as well... she is so blur that she nearly bang by car thinking of her statistic assignment..probably she is counting the probability of her being bang that the car...lol.. oh and everything she see is all in statistic especially probability..well, degree is tough but life move on... and my ankle is better d..lol..

aaron birthday dinner is soon (happy 20th birthday bro!).. say, in few hours time ahaha.. will post the pics is got.. talking about pics, i uploaded alot of pics in the new created album called pics pics =) in facebook.. check it out.. and in kducf.blogspot, pics of recruitment drive is up..

i can't wait for my next week break.. break, here i am waiting for u.. come quick!!!